"A body of men holding themselves accountable to nobody ought not to be trusted by anybody". Thomas Paine
people here get married to young they don't even know who they are much less have the maturity to deal with someone else.
Drugs & alchoholism and all that goes along with it, abuse, infidelity, financial etc is a major problem.
Men & Women get sick of putting up with bullshit usually related to the above so they get divorced, Marriage is disposable these days. Nobody wants to work at it because its to hard and time consuming and most people don't want to face reality. People give up on each other to quickly because we are the right now generation.
^^^ Sad, but unfortunately very true.^^^
I’ve learned that whenever someone qualifies another with “he’s a good Christian”, that typically means they’re a crook. Kind of like the blind date: “she’s got a good personality”. Yep, she’s gonna be a reeeaaal looker. If that's the description you need to use to qualify someone, then there's something to hide.
"Some of us are often accused of always crying 'wolf'. But it is worth noting that one day the wolf came".
"It is true that liberty is precious; so precious that it must be carefully rationed."
If you look at the high ranking of Okla in teen pregnancies, you'll find another reason for our high divorce rate as well. We have a lot of too young kids getting married that can't take care of their school lunch money let alone a family, house bills and real adult life. Why, cause they're still kids. They still want to buy all the toys that their young single buddies are buying or still go to the mall with their single friends and hang out and it often takes the couple in different directions and as a result, animosity for each other and a divorce.
Just because nobody complains doesn't mean all parachutes are perfect" -Benny Hill
The spirit of condenscension you mentioned is no doubt there, but that perception very often comes from the Church standing up and calling sin what it is, and that's sin. When a person is confronted with sin, he reacts different ways. He will see that sin and repent, he will deny it, he will make light of it, or he will react by attacking that which pointed it out.
You scuz buckets here on OSA are better people than most church goers. I'll take the fellowship of good people over a bunch of Sunday Morning Christians any day.
I've found that money issues in Oklahoma are a huge issue, mainly due to gambling and the ease at which one can lose everything. You think the casinos are being built from tourist dollars? There are soccer moms losing their grocery money every day at the casino after dropping the kids off at daycare. Doesn't take much of that to have a negative impact on families. A poor educational system also doesn't help matters.
I'm blaming "Faded Love."
Like mentioned by others the reason Oklahoma has such a high divorce rate is because it's to easy to get a divorce. There are to many young girls getting pregnant and then from the pressure from being brought up in Oklahoma the "Bible Belt" they are told the right thing to do is get married. So two teenagers or people in their early 20's get married, life doesn't turn out like the fairy tale they had planned and their is a bump in the road and they get divorced. The statistics might show the #1 reason they get divorced is because of Financial issues, that's because young kids that got pregnant and don't have a college degree or any type of skill, typically won't make very good money and indeed are broke. Everyone thinks they should get married early because everyone else does, when in fact they haven't figured their own problems and self out first and then can't handle it when their significant other is in the same boat.
Then they have to deal with normal life, job, wife, kids, worldly problems and they can't handle it all and get a divorce. You can blame it on Casinos, Church, Religion, Alcohol or whatever but what it comes down to are the people are to blame not everything else or someone else. I was born and raised in this State so I'm lumping myself in with everyone. I'm no better then the next guy.
Heck, my wife and I met a week before Christmas ...... got married the following March 29th ......... Heard a lot of folks telling us that it wouldn't work. Guess we made it work ..... heading for 38 years together next March 29th ....
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