Go through some forums, some threads here maybe and read other people’s recommendations. The main point a lot of times is MAKE SURE you don’t do or say anything that can be held against you. Things can be twisted and misconstrued and men are particularly vulnerable to accusations.
Make sure you take care of yourself. I’ve seen some guys not come out fairly at all due to trying to be selfless and possibly atone for whatever their mistakes were in the marriage.
Edit: Just noticed you are in Tulsa. Can’t help you but the above info might help others. Best of luck to you. I know it is tough regardless of the situation.
Thank you everyone for your replies. Thankfully this is not for me, but rather my brother. He and his ex had agreed to do everything through one attorney, and then, of course, he got served the papers out of the blue.
It depends what county hes in. A divorce lawyer will not work outside of their county unless they are crooked and just want your money and dont care about losing. A good lawyer wants to go to his own county courthouse where he knows the judge, probably plays golf and goes to happy hour with said judge.