Best Divorce Attorney in Tulsa County?

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Pay legal fees and child support to husband? Sounds like she makes loads of money and/or she did something in the marriage she shouldn't have done.

She doesn't make much. He makes more than her. His mother is rich, owns their home and wants her evicted. They've been married more than a decade. She and her son from another marriage will have no medical insurance if he gets his way. Their daughter together would still be covered under his employer's medial coverage.

There's no boyfriend, she does everything in the home and with the kids. He got violent with her one night and her son had to call the police. She didn't press charges. This is his mother's doing. I usually fall in the camp of both sides have a story and the truth is somewhere in-between. In this case, he's addicted to opioid painkillers (doctor shopping, etc.) and marijuana. We've even offered to open our home to her and her son should she become homeless over this. She has no family in Oklahoma and the court documents say she can't leave the state without a judge's approval. :(

Thanks for all the responses guys. I really appreciate it!
 

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Its my understanding she shouldn't leave the home unless ordered to by the court. Its her residence also. It may be hell but she needs to stay there. Also if the idiot touches her she needs to be pressing charges and filing a restraining order on him asap.

Restraining orders are practically useless, and in many cases, more damaging. When I worked at the OSBI, we were always seeing charges against guys who had violated their restraining orders. I think that more times than not, the restraining order just makes them more angry and causes them to escalate their actions against their spouse.
 

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Restraining orders are practically useless, and in many cases, more damaging. When I worked at the OSBI, we were always seeing charges against guys who had violated their restraining orders. I think that more times than not, the restraining order just makes them more angry and causes them to escalate their actions against their spouse.
But if he strikes her and she gets a RO she can have him removed from the residence
 

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Under the state's guidelines at that time to determine the amount of child support, they had a formula that depended on how much each party was earning, and had to use a chart to get the amount of child support. I'm sure its all different now, but it worked in my favor back in the day.

That's still basically it. The law uses a formula based on the two parents' incomes and the number of overnights each parent has. If they make the same and each have them 15 nights a month (for example), and share other expenses like insurance etc., then no support is paid. If one makes more and/or has more overnights than the other, then the support is based on some pro rata formula of the incomes and overnights disparity.

Not directed at you Dennis, but also note that people often say "custody" but that's not the same as the overnights; rather it's the decision-making authority one has over the children.
 

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Its my understanding she shouldn't leave the home unless ordered to by the court. Its her residence also. It may be hell but she needs to stay there. Also if the idiot touches her she needs to be pressing charges and filing a restraining order on him asap.

She’s been served with an eviction notice so she’s moving out. She doesn’t want to bring drama to others, so she’s looking for a good safe place to move into, preferably Owasso/Collinsville area in case anyone has any suggestions. Thanks again for the tips and support guys.
 

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That's still basically it. The law uses a formula based on the two parents' incomes and the number of overnights each parent has. If they make the same and each have them 15 nights a month (for example), and share other expenses like insurance etc., then no support is paid. If one makes more and/or has more overnights than the other, then the support is based on some pro rata formula of the incomes and overnights disparity.

Not directed at you Dennis, but also note that people often say "custody" but that's not the same as the overnights; rather it's the decision-making authority one has over the children.

The fact that she never visited her children for 6 months after she bailed before divorce court, or Cattle call as my lawyer described it, and didn’t show up for court, I was given full custody with her only getting visitation rights on every other weekend, alternating holidays and a month during the summer that she didn’t take full advantage of for several years after that.
I could personally care less if they ever saw her again but knew our issues should not be forced on them so I worked privately to at least have her see them occasionally.
As she got over her mid life crisis, the bad times were slowly mended. The sons visit her now and we are on good speaking terms as well.
When kids are involved, divorce is still a lifetime of being associated with the ex in one way or the other.
 

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The fact that she never visited her children for 6 months after she bailed before divorce court, or Cattle call as my lawyer described it, and didn’t show up for court, I was given full custody with her only getting visitation rights on every other weekend, alternating holidays and a month during the summer that she didn’t take full advantage of for several years after that.
I could personally care less if they ever saw her again but knew our issues should not be forced on them so I worked privately to at least have her see them occasionally.
As she got over her mid life crisis, the bad times were slowly mended. The sons visit her now and we are on good speaking terms as well.
When kids are involved, divorce is still a lifetime of being associated with the ex in one way or the other.

Believe me I totally get it. From 11 years old on, I and my brother were raised by a single dad.
 

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