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<blockquote data-quote="icarus_85" data-source="post: 3712680" data-attributes="member: 40891"><p>Hey there Holechit. Man...what you describe is something that's right there on a knife's edge. Here's the advice, and take it from someone who's been right where you are. <strong>You either drink... or you don't. </strong> That's what I have come to know and believe. I tried every which way to be "just" a social drinker, or just have a few to get a buzz because after all, it's Friday/Saturday night and it's time to relax and have some fun. But that funny thing about alcohol, is it doesn't care what YOU want. It seeps into your life and then one day you realize that everything you do revolves around that moment you get to sit in your easy chair and drink. For me, the buzzes didn't come easy or fast enough and before I knew what had happened while sitting there watching 3 to 4 hours of TV, I had blown through a half handle of Tito's. Left just enough for Saturday night. I'm a happy drunk. Man...I like to drink because it makes me happy, happy, happy. I laugh at anything, I look at the world through caring eyes when I'm drinking. I'm more agreeable, charitable, and carefree when I've had way too much to drink. Why would I want to give up alcohol? Life's great! But you can't be in that state for 16 hours a day and live very long. You do that long enough and you start having other physical issues that alcohol contributes to. Liver, heart, blood pressure, circulatory, diabetes, overweight, you name it.... it will eventually kill you. My bottom came when I started feeling like I couldn't get out of bed and my nervous system was on fire for the whole day. I felt like **** all day long. Then, knowing how I was going to feel tomorrow, I'd drink anyway. THAT's when I knew I needed help with this. Long story short, I'm sober and I don't drink anymore..... AND it took a long time getting there. Just as it did getting into that situation in the first place. I had to figure out what made me laugh and all the other stuff I felt when I was drinking. That took some time too. And discipline. Lots of it. Funny thing is, I didn't start drinking, heavy drinking until I was 50 years old. My old man was an alcoholic and he was just like me. A happy drunk. But it got him in a bad way. He died when he was 49 years old from a heart attack that I am sure was exacerbated by alcohol abuse and 2 pack per day habit. He was drinking a fifth of Vodka every day for the last few years of his life. When I turned 50 I thought well hell, I've made it further than my old man did, I can have a drink or two. Well, you know the story.</p><p></p><p>So as others have stated here, more succinctly than I, I don't think you are ready to really quit drinking. There is no drinking "just a little" when you have a problem relationship with alcohol. So with that, I would tell you to be kind to yourself as you move forward trying to figure out what exactly it is you want to do. Drink or not to drink. Some people can do it. They have their 2 cocktails made with 1 or 2 ounce pours and call it good. Those of us with a problem can never call it good. So don't beat yourself up when you drink more than you really wanted to, but at the same time keep trying to answer your own dilemma. If you get to the point that you really want to do something about it there are people, good people, that can help you along your journey. And it will be a journey for the rest of your life. And it can be good. Really good. </p><p></p><p>Good luck. Get outside, breathe some cold air, and feel the sun on your face. You'll start to figure some things out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="icarus_85, post: 3712680, member: 40891"] Hey there Holechit. Man...what you describe is something that's right there on a knife's edge. Here's the advice, and take it from someone who's been right where you are. [B]You either drink... or you don't. [/B] That's what I have come to know and believe. I tried every which way to be "just" a social drinker, or just have a few to get a buzz because after all, it's Friday/Saturday night and it's time to relax and have some fun. But that funny thing about alcohol, is it doesn't care what YOU want. It seeps into your life and then one day you realize that everything you do revolves around that moment you get to sit in your easy chair and drink. For me, the buzzes didn't come easy or fast enough and before I knew what had happened while sitting there watching 3 to 4 hours of TV, I had blown through a half handle of Tito's. Left just enough for Saturday night. I'm a happy drunk. Man...I like to drink because it makes me happy, happy, happy. I laugh at anything, I look at the world through caring eyes when I'm drinking. I'm more agreeable, charitable, and carefree when I've had way too much to drink. Why would I want to give up alcohol? Life's great! But you can't be in that state for 16 hours a day and live very long. You do that long enough and you start having other physical issues that alcohol contributes to. Liver, heart, blood pressure, circulatory, diabetes, overweight, you name it.... it will eventually kill you. My bottom came when I started feeling like I couldn't get out of bed and my nervous system was on fire for the whole day. I felt like **** all day long. Then, knowing how I was going to feel tomorrow, I'd drink anyway. THAT's when I knew I needed help with this. Long story short, I'm sober and I don't drink anymore..... AND it took a long time getting there. Just as it did getting into that situation in the first place. I had to figure out what made me laugh and all the other stuff I felt when I was drinking. That took some time too. And discipline. Lots of it. Funny thing is, I didn't start drinking, heavy drinking until I was 50 years old. My old man was an alcoholic and he was just like me. A happy drunk. But it got him in a bad way. He died when he was 49 years old from a heart attack that I am sure was exacerbated by alcohol abuse and 2 pack per day habit. He was drinking a fifth of Vodka every day for the last few years of his life. When I turned 50 I thought well hell, I've made it further than my old man did, I can have a drink or two. Well, you know the story. So as others have stated here, more succinctly than I, I don't think you are ready to really quit drinking. There is no drinking "just a little" when you have a problem relationship with alcohol. So with that, I would tell you to be kind to yourself as you move forward trying to figure out what exactly it is you want to do. Drink or not to drink. Some people can do it. They have their 2 cocktails made with 1 or 2 ounce pours and call it good. Those of us with a problem can never call it good. So don't beat yourself up when you drink more than you really wanted to, but at the same time keep trying to answer your own dilemma. If you get to the point that you really want to do something about it there are people, good people, that can help you along your journey. And it will be a journey for the rest of your life. And it can be good. Really good. Good luck. Get outside, breathe some cold air, and feel the sun on your face. You'll start to figure some things out. [/QUOTE]
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