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<blockquote data-quote="vvvvvvv" data-source="post: 1479322" data-attributes="member: 5151"><p>I'm not a parent, but I can speak from "the other side".</p><p></p><p>I think there is some merit to the earlier poster's comment about him possibly not being challenged enough. I say that because I was one of those kids who wasn't challenged in school and calculated exactly what I needed to do to get by.</p><p></p><p>You said he plays baseball and is a great pitcher. Is baseball where his passion lies? I ask because I understand the sports pressure in small towns (even though I personally find Weatherford to be HUGE). I only played football in grades 5 and 6 and was fairly good, but I only did it because the boys who didn't got humiliated day in and day out. I'm 7th grade, I did the "I want to be like my big brother" thing and tried wrestling, which I totally sucked at. I took that as an opportunity to never touch sports again because everyone had the impression by that point that I was a poor athlete.</p><p></p><p>So here was my normal schedule: 715 to 3:30: school, 3:30 to 100: computers in my bedroom. Yeah, every now and then I'd go and drag main, but that's because it took so long to compile on a 486dx or even a Pentium 2.</p><p></p><p>I was one of those unmotivated underachieving struggling kids that just didn't do well in school because I felt that every day was exactly the same with no challenges other than not unleashing my anger on the students who picked on me constantly. I was referred to counselors on more than a few occasions because I was "more".</p><p></p><p>Heck, I even got accused by someone in an authoritative position of being gay because I wasn't very social in 8th grade and have naturally deep colored nails, so I was obviously painting them and "trying to be a girl".</p><p></p><p>The point is that not everything may be as it seems. Your kid might be the most intelligent person in their class, but straight 100s (or even just A's) is a ticket for an ass whooping in some schools.</p><p></p><p>I guess what I'm trying to say is find out what it is that really drives them. Sometimes, taking stuff away doesn't really work that well. I had enough entrepreneurial spirit that I bought a Compaq briefcase laptop that originally shipped with Windows 3.1 from a surplus auction when my computers were taken away once. If its really important to them, they'll get it with or without you. Taking the other drivel away will likely have little effect.</p><p></p><p>My 1/2 cent, because I'm not a parent and wasnt the average teenager. If there are any typos, its because the text box on forum runner is wider than my screen and my normal internet access is dead right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="vvvvvvv, post: 1479322, member: 5151"] I'm not a parent, but I can speak from "the other side". I think there is some merit to the earlier poster's comment about him possibly not being challenged enough. I say that because I was one of those kids who wasn't challenged in school and calculated exactly what I needed to do to get by. You said he plays baseball and is a great pitcher. Is baseball where his passion lies? I ask because I understand the sports pressure in small towns (even though I personally find Weatherford to be HUGE). I only played football in grades 5 and 6 and was fairly good, but I only did it because the boys who didn't got humiliated day in and day out. I'm 7th grade, I did the "I want to be like my big brother" thing and tried wrestling, which I totally sucked at. I took that as an opportunity to never touch sports again because everyone had the impression by that point that I was a poor athlete. So here was my normal schedule: 715 to 3:30: school, 3:30 to 100: computers in my bedroom. Yeah, every now and then I'd go and drag main, but that's because it took so long to compile on a 486dx or even a Pentium 2. I was one of those unmotivated underachieving struggling kids that just didn't do well in school because I felt that every day was exactly the same with no challenges other than not unleashing my anger on the students who picked on me constantly. I was referred to counselors on more than a few occasions because I was "more". Heck, I even got accused by someone in an authoritative position of being gay because I wasn't very social in 8th grade and have naturally deep colored nails, so I was obviously painting them and "trying to be a girl". The point is that not everything may be as it seems. Your kid might be the most intelligent person in their class, but straight 100s (or even just A's) is a ticket for an ass whooping in some schools. I guess what I'm trying to say is find out what it is that really drives them. Sometimes, taking stuff away doesn't really work that well. I had enough entrepreneurial spirit that I bought a Compaq briefcase laptop that originally shipped with Windows 3.1 from a surplus auction when my computers were taken away once. If its really important to them, they'll get it with or without you. Taking the other drivel away will likely have little effect. My 1/2 cent, because I'm not a parent and wasnt the average teenager. If there are any typos, its because the text box on forum runner is wider than my screen and my normal internet access is dead right now. [/QUOTE]
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