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<blockquote data-quote="nofearfactor" data-source="post: 1733729" data-attributes="member: 1535"><p>Easy to say that but if you have done almost everything you can do with a kid and they still fckup, then you dont just give up on em and call yourself a failure and blame your self. Its not your fault, especially if you have done everything possible to right a wrong in the kid. Its all on them. Theyre the ones fcked up, not you. You cant just beat em into being a good kid. You have to try to re-shape them, motivate them, build them back up and it takes time, patience, and in some cases, money. I know, we're there right now.</p><p></p><p>Our oldest was the golden child- never got any trouble out of her. Straight A grades, active in church with her mom, worked part time in HS and still graduated with honors, etc. Right now shes gone seeing the country while working for the government in the Americorps program before she starts college next year to get a little space before starting another round of school. </p><p></p><p>The other kid at home. 15, and right now doesnt give a fck about anything but sitting in his room and reading sci-fi comics while listening to dubstep and stuff like ICP. He's now 6' x 200lbs and not the little 4' 9" 90lb kid I met when I started dating his mom. The almost entire 9 years Ive been with his mom he has been a pretty good kid. This year though he has started being a little testy. She had him in counseling. He has had almost everything he owns taken away from him for something fcked up he did and he can literally just sit in an almost bare room and stare at a wall and not be bothered by it- looks like a yogi in there working on his meditation. He's in the 9th grade now and flunking math and science. He had made good grades in most everything 1st-8th grades. Super smart kid but now he's just decided that he doesnt want to turn in his work, thus getting zeroes, and now he's flunking 2 subjects and Cs in all the others. His mom is in daily contact with all of his teachers via EMail and monitors his school work and then works with him at night when she comes home. She is doing her part plus some. </p><p></p><p>All last summer we spent time together on the computers taking early course work, I spent time with him lifting weights, playing basketball, I put him with a boxing coach after he got his black belt at his martial arts school, we worked on my 2 Mustangs together and we made plans to find him a used car to build into a hot rod when he gets a job to help pay for it- if he gets his license. He really seemed pumped about mid high then highschool and maybe playing basketball in highschool and maybe even in college, the kid is probably gonna top out at about 6 4" or taller. But now he doesnt even resemble the same kid, mentally. His new friends this year at school are the loser crowd- Goth kids, stoners, the ICP lovin freaks, etc. He quit basketball because it wasnt 'cool'. I went to school in a large southern California HS and I hung out with the stoner and surfer dudes. I know the types. Theyre every where. Losers.</p><p></p><p>Thankfully his mom just enrolled him in an after school learning center in BA and she took the money for it out of his college money ($7k) to help him with his math and science problems and other learning problems he suddenly has developed. He has to put in 180 hours of it 2 hours at a time from now all thru the summer. If he doesnt take it serious and make it work for him then he wont be able to pass the new HS graduation requirements just passed by our state legislature, and he will have wasted his own money. His mom is a busy corporate officer so me being self employed I am the one who is always home when he gets off the bus, he is has never been allowed to go hang out some where after school other than our yard or the nearby park playing sports. Going down to the park with the neighbor kid, who is a really good kid (he calls him a 'nerd'), to play basketball is allowed cause I can go over and check on him, so he isnt a prisoner in his own home or not allowed to socialize. He just isnt allowed to go hang out with people we dont know or not know where he is. He gets taken to a friends and picked back up, if his mom meets the parents. It has come to that. I had way more freedom than that when I was a kid. Hopefully he pulls out of this 'phase' and changes before next year and high school. </p><p></p><p>Im worried for the kid. These loser kids pull him down further and he doesnt graduate, he'll be flipping burgers for a living and camping out at 'The Gathering's' and hooking up with Juggalettes. When he could have maybe gotten a basketball scholarship, gone to college, and maybe even the NBA. Or the D league would be ok. Just something better than The Gathering.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nofearfactor, post: 1733729, member: 1535"] Easy to say that but if you have done almost everything you can do with a kid and they still fckup, then you dont just give up on em and call yourself a failure and blame your self. Its not your fault, especially if you have done everything possible to right a wrong in the kid. Its all on them. Theyre the ones fcked up, not you. You cant just beat em into being a good kid. You have to try to re-shape them, motivate them, build them back up and it takes time, patience, and in some cases, money. I know, we're there right now. Our oldest was the golden child- never got any trouble out of her. Straight A grades, active in church with her mom, worked part time in HS and still graduated with honors, etc. Right now shes gone seeing the country while working for the government in the Americorps program before she starts college next year to get a little space before starting another round of school. The other kid at home. 15, and right now doesnt give a fck about anything but sitting in his room and reading sci-fi comics while listening to dubstep and stuff like ICP. He's now 6' x 200lbs and not the little 4' 9" 90lb kid I met when I started dating his mom. The almost entire 9 years Ive been with his mom he has been a pretty good kid. This year though he has started being a little testy. She had him in counseling. He has had almost everything he owns taken away from him for something fcked up he did and he can literally just sit in an almost bare room and stare at a wall and not be bothered by it- looks like a yogi in there working on his meditation. He's in the 9th grade now and flunking math and science. He had made good grades in most everything 1st-8th grades. Super smart kid but now he's just decided that he doesnt want to turn in his work, thus getting zeroes, and now he's flunking 2 subjects and Cs in all the others. His mom is in daily contact with all of his teachers via EMail and monitors his school work and then works with him at night when she comes home. She is doing her part plus some. All last summer we spent time together on the computers taking early course work, I spent time with him lifting weights, playing basketball, I put him with a boxing coach after he got his black belt at his martial arts school, we worked on my 2 Mustangs together and we made plans to find him a used car to build into a hot rod when he gets a job to help pay for it- if he gets his license. He really seemed pumped about mid high then highschool and maybe playing basketball in highschool and maybe even in college, the kid is probably gonna top out at about 6 4" or taller. But now he doesnt even resemble the same kid, mentally. His new friends this year at school are the loser crowd- Goth kids, stoners, the ICP lovin freaks, etc. He quit basketball because it wasnt 'cool'. I went to school in a large southern California HS and I hung out with the stoner and surfer dudes. I know the types. Theyre every where. Losers. Thankfully his mom just enrolled him in an after school learning center in BA and she took the money for it out of his college money ($7k) to help him with his math and science problems and other learning problems he suddenly has developed. He has to put in 180 hours of it 2 hours at a time from now all thru the summer. If he doesnt take it serious and make it work for him then he wont be able to pass the new HS graduation requirements just passed by our state legislature, and he will have wasted his own money. His mom is a busy corporate officer so me being self employed I am the one who is always home when he gets off the bus, he is has never been allowed to go hang out some where after school other than our yard or the nearby park playing sports. Going down to the park with the neighbor kid, who is a really good kid (he calls him a 'nerd'), to play basketball is allowed cause I can go over and check on him, so he isnt a prisoner in his own home or not allowed to socialize. He just isnt allowed to go hang out with people we dont know or not know where he is. He gets taken to a friends and picked back up, if his mom meets the parents. It has come to that. I had way more freedom than that when I was a kid. Hopefully he pulls out of this 'phase' and changes before next year and high school. Im worried for the kid. These loser kids pull him down further and he doesnt graduate, he'll be flipping burgers for a living and camping out at 'The Gathering's' and hooking up with Juggalettes. When he could have maybe gotten a basketball scholarship, gone to college, and maybe even the NBA. Or the D league would be ok. Just something better than The Gathering. [/QUOTE]
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