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<blockquote data-quote="Capm_Spaulding" data-source="post: 3409849" data-attributes="member: 17977"><p>I say to practice what you preach to him. If you believe that being homosexual is a sin, then it is equal to all other sin. So if you do truly believe that all sin is equal in God’s eyes, then this confession is no different that admitting to lying or stealing. We have all lied, we have all stolen; And despite asking for forgiveness, many of us will lie again. This is no different for him, as we are human and we sin, this is his sin. Your son is looking for your love and your acceptance, that is what he wants and needs right now. You can be hurt and upset, but you need to keep it to yourself because it is selfish at its core. He is 15, he needs someone to tell him that he’s okay and he’s loved no matter what his thoughts and feelings are. You are free to express your disagreement with his decisions, but you should also express acceptance and not try to punish him, because it is not your role, even as a parent. We are not God, we are man, and we should not try to play God and punish someone for a sin that isn’t on the list of commandments, above those that are. His relationship with God is his, and he will need to work on it on his own with no time limit. As much as you want to push him toward counseling, I think you may also need it, and that isn’t an insult. I do think it would be beneficial to have a counselor as an intermediary while you both talk about things.</p><p>I don’t think he is coming to you for all of the answers, nor do I think you should have all of the answers. I think really he just wants to know you still love him and accept him. It is your decision, but just try and remember the perspective of a 15 year old and how much your decisions now will shape him for the rest of his life. He is YOUR child, but he is also his own person and these talks you have, he will remember forever. Please make them ones that he can look back on and be thankful for.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Capm_Spaulding, post: 3409849, member: 17977"] I say to practice what you preach to him. If you believe that being homosexual is a sin, then it is equal to all other sin. So if you do truly believe that all sin is equal in God’s eyes, then this confession is no different that admitting to lying or stealing. We have all lied, we have all stolen; And despite asking for forgiveness, many of us will lie again. This is no different for him, as we are human and we sin, this is his sin. Your son is looking for your love and your acceptance, that is what he wants and needs right now. You can be hurt and upset, but you need to keep it to yourself because it is selfish at its core. He is 15, he needs someone to tell him that he’s okay and he’s loved no matter what his thoughts and feelings are. You are free to express your disagreement with his decisions, but you should also express acceptance and not try to punish him, because it is not your role, even as a parent. We are not God, we are man, and we should not try to play God and punish someone for a sin that isn’t on the list of commandments, above those that are. His relationship with God is his, and he will need to work on it on his own with no time limit. As much as you want to push him toward counseling, I think you may also need it, and that isn’t an insult. I do think it would be beneficial to have a counselor as an intermediary while you both talk about things. I don’t think he is coming to you for all of the answers, nor do I think you should have all of the answers. I think really he just wants to know you still love him and accept him. It is your decision, but just try and remember the perspective of a 15 year old and how much your decisions now will shape him for the rest of his life. He is YOUR child, but he is also his own person and these talks you have, he will remember forever. Please make them ones that he can look back on and be thankful for. [/QUOTE]
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