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<blockquote data-quote="HoLeChit" data-source="post: 3620246" data-attributes="member: 35036"><p>So my girlfriend is a therapist, and used to specialize in kids. She decided she got tired of custody battles, divorces, and really terrible stuff. Now she tends to stick with older kids and teenagers. With that being said, I have this to say:</p><p></p><p>from what I have heard from her accounts, and what she literally just told me, kids going through this sorta thing just want to know you still love and accept them. This sorta thing isn’t easy for any parties involved, and just like grown adults, kids need time to figure out what’s going on in their mind. It’s a little harder for them than us, as they don’t have the life experience and hormonal stability that we do as adults. Even if you don’t understand what’s going on in his head, just plain ol being a dad is important. Not pushing the issue, being there to listen or talk if desired, and just love that kid and respect them.</p><p></p><p>now, just my .02: getting your kid in to mental help can be a good thing if they want it. Not all therapists or psychiatrists are the same. Some can be pretty liberal, or conservative. They should, ethically, be neutral though. But, if you/he want a Christian counselor there is that option. Going to psychologytoday.com allows you to browse counselors based upon what your son is comfortable with and such. You could find a female Christian counselor who specialized in sexuality issues and puberty that charges on a sliding scale within the Edmond area or however specific you wanna get.</p><p></p><p>also, as a previous kid myself, who was raised in a strict Protestant home, I feel that when I started slipping away from the church my parents and friends pushed harder to steer me back in their preferred direction, without regard to my thoughts or feelings. This pushed me further away, but my life experiences made the real decisions for me. But in the mean time I could have used some love and respect, it would have saved me a lot of heartache.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HoLeChit, post: 3620246, member: 35036"] So my girlfriend is a therapist, and used to specialize in kids. She decided she got tired of custody battles, divorces, and really terrible stuff. Now she tends to stick with older kids and teenagers. With that being said, I have this to say: from what I have heard from her accounts, and what she literally just told me, kids going through this sorta thing just want to know you still love and accept them. This sorta thing isn’t easy for any parties involved, and just like grown adults, kids need time to figure out what’s going on in their mind. It’s a little harder for them than us, as they don’t have the life experience and hormonal stability that we do as adults. Even if you don’t understand what’s going on in his head, just plain ol being a dad is important. Not pushing the issue, being there to listen or talk if desired, and just love that kid and respect them. now, just my .02: getting your kid in to mental help can be a good thing if they want it. Not all therapists or psychiatrists are the same. Some can be pretty liberal, or conservative. They should, ethically, be neutral though. But, if you/he want a Christian counselor there is that option. Going to psychologytoday.com allows you to browse counselors based upon what your son is comfortable with and such. You could find a female Christian counselor who specialized in sexuality issues and puberty that charges on a sliding scale within the Edmond area or however specific you wanna get. also, as a previous kid myself, who was raised in a strict Protestant home, I feel that when I started slipping away from the church my parents and friends pushed harder to steer me back in their preferred direction, without regard to my thoughts or feelings. This pushed me further away, but my life experiences made the real decisions for me. But in the mean time I could have used some love and respect, it would have saved me a lot of heartache. [/QUOTE]
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