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In his case, the thoughts were out of the ordinary and they stopped when he quit taking the drug. The problem he was trying to get addressed was a physiological issue caused by his cancer treatment, not the misdiagnosed depression, at least according to his oncologist.
Yeah a new manifestation would be cause for concern for sure! My wife had severe depression due to a medication after giving birth to our daughter.
 

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Suicide is something that hits very close to home for me. In June 2018, my mother took her own life. But she didn't do it quickly, no instead she suffered and made us all watch.

Dad was losing a 3 year battle with cancer. She knew the end was near for him, and she couldn't imagine life without him. Strangely enough, around the first part of June, after Hospice was called in for dad, my mother contracted a nasty urinary tract infection. Instead of going to the dr. to get it treated, she had a DNR in place without any of us knowing about it.

Well, as you can guess, the UTI turned septic and started poisoning her body. She also refused to eat or even speak to any of us. We all literally watched her suffer and die a selfish death right before our eyes. Tragically, dad followed exactly 10 days later.

They truly had the story book marriage. She was raised by her verbally and physically abusive grandmother and he was fresh out of the navy. He rescued her from the horrific environment she was living in, and made her his wife at the tender age of only 17 (he was 25). They spent 58 incredible years together, teaching me and my two brothers how to be successful men.

I miss them both every single day, but I'm still pissed at my mother for her selfish act. I have forgiven her, because my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ says I have to, but I'm still angry. Hopefully someday I can get over it.
Even though your mother is gone forgive her. You are thinking about your pain, think about her pain. The pain she was going through with your father dying from the cancer in front of her and nothing she could do, must have been unbearable. Their bond was strong and unbreakable. She longed to stay with him. That is a rare love today.
 

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Even though your mother is gone forgive her. You are thinking about your pain, think about her pain. The pain she was going through with your father dying from the cancer in front of her and nothing she could do, must have been unbearable. Their bond was strong and unbreakable. She longed to stay with him. That is a rare love today.
You're right, and I have forgiven her, for the most part. It's just tough losing both your parents at basically the same time. Especially when it didn't have to happen thataway. I know her pain. Mrs. GED is my everything. I absolutely do not know where I would be without her. Prison, more than likely.
 

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Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

The pain and grief is transferred to family and friends, who have no answer to a myriad of questions.

I have had 4 suicides that were family or close friends. All were a shock. None had reached out.

If you ever feel that low, please, reach out and talk to someone. You are never alone.
 

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Even though your mother is gone forgive her. You are thinking about your pain, think about her pain. The pain she was going through with your father dying from the cancer in front of her and nothing she could do, must have been unbearable. Their bond was strong and unbreakable. She longed to stay with him. That is a rare love today.
AMEN!
My uncle died and within 3 months my aunt went. Then my dad and four months later my mom. All in 2018. I'm convinced it was from a broken heart.
 

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I am convinced my son thought he was doing the right thing when he killed himself.

He really couldn't have understood how that would affect everyone.

He had so many options, and a solid support system. Sometimes when you're set on something, you're just set on it.

Not a day goes by I don't think of him.

I see so many worthless bastards every day, and wonder why they still breathe.

RIP Andrewski.
 

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I remember a female officer I used to work with. She was a good person but always bitched and griped about everything. One Sunday evening at shift change (she was my relief) she showed up just as happy and joyful as a chimp on roller skates.

We talked for a good 30-40 minutes, which was something she never did. She would come in, debrief for about 5-10 minutes, then she would hit the streets.

I found out the next day, she was cheerful and pleasant to everybody she encountered that night. She left, went home, wrote her kids a letter and blew her brains out.

I never saw it coming.

I should have gotten a sign or some kind of vibe from her behavior, but I didn't. I miss her.
 

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I remember a female officer I used to work with. She was a good person but always bitched and griped about everything. One Sunday evening at shift change (she was my relief) she showed up just as happy and joyful as a chimp on roller skates.

We talked for a good 30-40 minutes, which was something she never did. She would come in, debrief for about 5-10 minutes, then she would hit the streets.

I found out the next day, she was cheerful and pleasant to everybody she encountered that night. She left, went home, wrote her kids a letter and blew her brains out.

I never saw it coming.

I should have gotten a sign or some kind of vibe from her behavior, but I didn't. I miss her.
That cheerful behavior is common. Once the person "decides" , it's like the weight of the world is lifted from them.
 

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