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Preventing Violence; the Need for Defusing and Deescalation Skills

Discussion in 'Self Defense and Handgun Carry' started by gerhard1, Sep 8, 2017.

  1. gerhard1

    gerhard1 Sharpshooter

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    A C&P of a post I made in the Kansas forum some time back.
    Any thoughts on this?
     
  2. Dale00

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    Absolutely..."An armed society is a polite society".....and, "A soft answer turns away wrath"

    Terms of respect, such as 'sir', are by no means outdated. They can help defuse someone who is on the edge of losing control.

    People with ego problems, tend not to back down. Stay away from them when possible. If you are one of them, do not carry.

    People who are being extremely unreasonable are likely that way because of nothing you have done. Whatever it takes to get out of their way is the reasonable thing to do...unless and until they present a credible threat/deadly force. Keep an eye on them as you try to disengage.
     
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    I've escalated a road situation that spilled over to QT once, because I couldn't keep my mouth shut. Big mistake.
     
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    I agree that working to deescalate a situation is almost always better than pushing it. It often helps to 'walk in the other persons shoes' for a moment to help understand what may be causing the problem and how to approach it. Granted that most of us are not in the business of being a psychiatrist, but being able to 'read' someone can sometimes literally mean the difference between life and death.
     
  5. Dale00

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    Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth ....(Meekness is not weakness. It is being able to restrain yourself when provoked)

    Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy

    Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called the children of God.
     
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    That sums it all up. Great post Dale,now starting with me if we can apply that to our lives every day.
     
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    Boy, I dunno. I struggle with this one all the time. I have found, in general, that the nicer and more accommodating I try to be the worse things get.

    Maybe it's because I'm a woman, but once I get enough (and admittedly it doesn't take much) I tend to revert quickly to my pissed off bartender days. I've had panhandlers actually apologize to me for bothering me before it was all over. (I DON'T like being approached be strangers.)
     
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    I'm the same way, the older I get the less tolerant of people I am,but I don't think thats the way we are suppose to be.
     
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    That was you ?????
     
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    MY father used to tell me that the secret to rarely being upset with people was lowered expectations.
     
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