Example I needed to put in a new fence post in my suburban yard, one post hole to dig, mix some quikcrete, set the pole, drink some beers. I could not get any of my adult kids to help, not even for some pocket money. Health problems prevents me from doing it myself.
Sorry, man - that sucks. I've driven 5 hours to help my aging father with some stuff he couldn't take care of; I hope my kids would do the same for me some day. As for facebook, I've got only a handful of friends on there, but have used it mostly just to chat with a few friends and a brother out of state at times. Told my wife several times I'd like to just kill the account altogether, as the bulk of it just seems to be narcissistic a**holes trolling for compliments by posting "selfies", or idiots trolling for attention by posting "well, that sucks" kinds of comments, with no explanation. It's like a support group for the lonely and needy.
I get along well with most of my family, and my inlaws are great - but they are divorced, and the god-forsaken debris that came with those that they remarried I could (and would like to) live without. And I know my avoiding them at all costs makes me seem aloof, and I really don't care.