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<blockquote data-quote="Catt57" data-source="post: 3727832" data-attributes="member: 34578"><p>Some brutal honesty here. And all from my own personal experience.</p><p></p><p>I have seen the bottom of that abyss. It was many years ago. Before I found this forum and the friends I've made here. I remember MANY TIMES driving down the highway wondering if I could escape with just one quick jerk of the steering wheel at 75 mph. Thankfully something inside of me never let me find out. Now I have 3 children that keep me grounded and thoughts like that no longer cross my mind.</p><p></p><p>Even at the time I knew there were people that cared about me. I just wasn't caring enough about myself to reach out to them. Sadly that is what depression does. It isolates you. In your own mind it no longer matters that anyone else cares, because you no longer care enough to help yourself. You avoid or even push away any attempts at help. You "know" there is no getting out of it and it will never get better. Even if you keep telling yourself it will get better, even if you try to believe this, the depression keeps you convinced otherwise. Everyone saying "It gets better" just makes it worse. Comforting words turn into daggers. All I wanted was understanding and acknowledgement of the pain I was in. Just for someone to say "Your life sucks, how can I genuinely help you to turn it around?"</p><p></p><p>It wasn't until I truly decided I wasn't going to let it win, and put every ounce of effort I had left into fighting it, that things began to change. That is the point at which someone will probably reach out to talk. Understand that at that point, it is literally taking everything they have just to talk. They are going to be fighting a fear you cannot comprehend. They will be at their most vulnerable. And most likely, they aren't looking for answers, not just yet. They are looking for strength, comfort, and an acknowledgement that they are going through Hell but it is worth the fight to escape.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Catt57, post: 3727832, member: 34578"] Some brutal honesty here. And all from my own personal experience. I have seen the bottom of that abyss. It was many years ago. Before I found this forum and the friends I've made here. I remember MANY TIMES driving down the highway wondering if I could escape with just one quick jerk of the steering wheel at 75 mph. Thankfully something inside of me never let me find out. Now I have 3 children that keep me grounded and thoughts like that no longer cross my mind. Even at the time I knew there were people that cared about me. I just wasn't caring enough about myself to reach out to them. Sadly that is what depression does. It isolates you. In your own mind it no longer matters that anyone else cares, because you no longer care enough to help yourself. You avoid or even push away any attempts at help. You "know" there is no getting out of it and it will never get better. Even if you keep telling yourself it will get better, even if you try to believe this, the depression keeps you convinced otherwise. Everyone saying "It gets better" just makes it worse. Comforting words turn into daggers. All I wanted was understanding and acknowledgement of the pain I was in. Just for someone to say "Your life sucks, how can I genuinely help you to turn it around?" It wasn't until I truly decided I wasn't going to let it win, and put every ounce of effort I had left into fighting it, that things began to change. That is the point at which someone will probably reach out to talk. Understand that at that point, it is literally taking everything they have just to talk. They are going to be fighting a fear you cannot comprehend. They will be at their most vulnerable. And most likely, they aren't looking for answers, not just yet. They are looking for strength, comfort, and an acknowledgement that they are going through Hell but it is worth the fight to escape. [/QUOTE]
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