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<blockquote data-quote="nofearfactor" data-source="post: 1355438" data-attributes="member: 1535"><p>I remember reading an article once in National Geographic with these 2 'kids',like 13 or 14,brothers who were the leaders of their unit in one of the countrys in central Africa that was in a civil war. They were sitting there smoking cigarettes and were excitedly talking about all of the enemies that they had killed and women they had kidnapped and raped,etcetc. These werent kids any more,if ever. They didnt grow up skateboarding or playing XBox or having a mommy tuck them in at night. They were recruited in the fight at 10 or less in some cases. </p><p></p><p>I look at my kid who just turned 14 and wonder if he would even know where to get a meal if we werent here. I think he's been raised pretty soft with all of the luxuries he has at his disposal growing up in a really nice neighborhood in a small town with alot of money outside of a large city in Oklahoma. He cries when he has to take the trash to the curb on Tuesdays or feed the dogs when he's in the middle of whatever video game he has his face in in his room. He has been allowed to have that idyllic childhood you read about in stories unlike poorer kids in the inner urban areas. </p><p></p><p>I was raised in the San Diego area in a not very nice tough neighborhood. Races were mixed up in a soup with the common denominator being we were all low-mid class. There were distinct racial and class distinctions there. We who were all low class no matter our race were seperated from the higher class. We the lower class were all trying to get on our own some of the nice stuff we saw the rich kids with who had been given theirs. By 17 or earlier you were already planning where you were going to go get your own life started,and every one I knew was hustling at something there just to get money to buy things you saw everyone else with cause your parents couldnt provide that stuff. Kids in suburbia get everything handed to them on a silver platter. Inner city urban kids not so much. </p><p></p><p>My 18 yr old daughter is a senior in highschool this year and is scared to leave home next summer. Her mother has even told her she doesnt have to go until shes ready. She's not going very far away anyways,to college,not to live on the streets. I had it way different. My dad took my key and said bye even before I walked across the stage and graduated. I was luckier than most of my friends though because they didnt even make it that far. Luckily I was skilled in art and music and I knew what it was I was going to do with my life once I got out of San Diego. I did it too. I went to art and music school in San Francisco, found a tattoo shop to apprentice in and played in bands on the side. I went on to own my own shop with my ex wife who I met in my first shop and also tattooed and have played in some successful rock bands over the years. Many friends of mine back home though who didnt make it ended up hustling at something,usually dealing drugs, and if they went to school it was to a different type of school- most likely in a southern California prison. Or died. I dont know how many of my old friends have died. And Im just now 41. Theres a big difference in people who grow up in suburban areas versus urban and inner city areas. A completely different mindset about survival. It starts younger with the not so fortunate.</p><p></p><p>But being poor and being from the inner city doesnt always have to be a negative. Plenty of kids fight the urge to join gangs or to be criminals and they go out and make something of themselves. Its just easier for some who are lazy to fall into the cycle of criminal behaviour early in life when kids have no one in their lives who care enough to keep them at home or to tell them no when they should. Once they enter the 'system' its a never ending cycle. Some make it out and some dont.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nofearfactor, post: 1355438, member: 1535"] I remember reading an article once in National Geographic with these 2 'kids',like 13 or 14,brothers who were the leaders of their unit in one of the countrys in central Africa that was in a civil war. They were sitting there smoking cigarettes and were excitedly talking about all of the enemies that they had killed and women they had kidnapped and raped,etcetc. These werent kids any more,if ever. They didnt grow up skateboarding or playing XBox or having a mommy tuck them in at night. They were recruited in the fight at 10 or less in some cases. I look at my kid who just turned 14 and wonder if he would even know where to get a meal if we werent here. I think he's been raised pretty soft with all of the luxuries he has at his disposal growing up in a really nice neighborhood in a small town with alot of money outside of a large city in Oklahoma. He cries when he has to take the trash to the curb on Tuesdays or feed the dogs when he's in the middle of whatever video game he has his face in in his room. He has been allowed to have that idyllic childhood you read about in stories unlike poorer kids in the inner urban areas. I was raised in the San Diego area in a not very nice tough neighborhood. Races were mixed up in a soup with the common denominator being we were all low-mid class. There were distinct racial and class distinctions there. We who were all low class no matter our race were seperated from the higher class. We the lower class were all trying to get on our own some of the nice stuff we saw the rich kids with who had been given theirs. By 17 or earlier you were already planning where you were going to go get your own life started,and every one I knew was hustling at something there just to get money to buy things you saw everyone else with cause your parents couldnt provide that stuff. Kids in suburbia get everything handed to them on a silver platter. Inner city urban kids not so much. My 18 yr old daughter is a senior in highschool this year and is scared to leave home next summer. Her mother has even told her she doesnt have to go until shes ready. She's not going very far away anyways,to college,not to live on the streets. I had it way different. My dad took my key and said bye even before I walked across the stage and graduated. I was luckier than most of my friends though because they didnt even make it that far. Luckily I was skilled in art and music and I knew what it was I was going to do with my life once I got out of San Diego. I did it too. I went to art and music school in San Francisco, found a tattoo shop to apprentice in and played in bands on the side. I went on to own my own shop with my ex wife who I met in my first shop and also tattooed and have played in some successful rock bands over the years. Many friends of mine back home though who didnt make it ended up hustling at something,usually dealing drugs, and if they went to school it was to a different type of school- most likely in a southern California prison. Or died. I dont know how many of my old friends have died. And Im just now 41. Theres a big difference in people who grow up in suburban areas versus urban and inner city areas. A completely different mindset about survival. It starts younger with the not so fortunate. But being poor and being from the inner city doesnt always have to be a negative. Plenty of kids fight the urge to join gangs or to be criminals and they go out and make something of themselves. Its just easier for some who are lazy to fall into the cycle of criminal behaviour early in life when kids have no one in their lives who care enough to keep them at home or to tell them no when they should. Once they enter the 'system' its a never ending cycle. Some make it out and some dont. [/QUOTE]
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