I recommend vasectomies, very liberating for both the man and woman in a relationship. I got mine in 1988, Camp Butler Okinawa, 1 month before my 2nd son was born. I milked it for sympathy for about a week but it is no worse than getting a tooth pulled. I got divorced in 1998 and quickly realized, men with a vasectomy, are very popular with middle aged women. I'm sure the operation is a lot easier now, 25 years later. Go for it.