This right here!
My wife carries a commander sized springfield gi 1911 in 45acp, she also carries a ruger LCP.
And now that she has shot some more that springfield xd 9mm she didn't like when she began shooting is now good to go with her but that's my carry gun.
Her initial issue was limp wristing the firearm, she didn't like the XD9 because it had more muzzle flip than a 1911 in .45acp... she constantly limp wristed the 9 but consistently shot well with the .45
So she chose a .45 as her carry gun initially. Practice and lead down range has resulted in her now being very consistent with my XD. And she likes her little pocket gun. But she wouldn't have liked it as her first handgun.
Mouse guns are horrible for beginners the triggers are long heavy and vague. Kahr 9mm would be a good compact piece to start looking at if she want's something small.
I love the Kahr PM9 and use it with the magazine finger extension as my appendix gun. That was one of the ones my wife liked the looks of but in the end passed it up for the 642CT. She is still coming around to the idea of hip carry for her ccw, but I started her out around the house with the Remora holster for her sweats and stuff when I'm not home and on duty. Shes is warming up to it. Baby steps