This is a 'what are your thoughts on my thoughts' kind of thing. My Dad is 80. I'm trying to get him in a handgun that he's comfortable with. He won't carry it much, mostly for home and car when they drive to the big city. He's had shotguns and a 22 revolver forever. For the last few years, he's had a mid size Sig in 9mm. He shoots a couple times a year, primarily when I make him. He finds the Sig to be snappy and the anticipation of recoil prevents him shooting it very well. The other thing is when he grabs the gun for the first time, he has a tendency to bring his left thumb around back of the gun (right hander). He didn't do it last time we shot, so that habit may be broken, but it's still a concern that that seems to be his instinct after a long break between shooting it. He shot my EZ 380 last time and preferred it for recoil. Here are the things I'm thinking about. Finding a low recoil 9mm round for the Sig and trying hard to at least get the grip down. Problem is, it's unlikely that he'll shoot it much more than couple times a year, so don't know if I'm confident we can kill the bad instinct there. Give him the EZ 380, but that doesn't solve the grip problem. Get some type of hammerless revolver with low recoil rounds. This is what I'm thinking may be the best option right now. He also has a 22 magnum revolver, and part of me wonders if that might be an option. People use them (or have them) for self defense, but it's hard to for me to go there. Then again, he's 80 and hasn't done any training obviously. So, maybe an option?