Don't let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out!
Thanks guys. I have a very limited Facebook profile I regretably made to keep up with a friend living abroad. I recently deleted almost everyone. I have ~45 left now. Probably be less than that soon. No need to get off FB if your only friends are people you like and have slept under the same roof with.
I deleted my cousin last night because she was continually being annoying. She sent me a message "you unfriend me because I disagree with you? Seriously? Grow up."
My pride wanted to say "no, I 'unfriended' you because you are a terrible person and the very thought of you makes my day worse" And grow up? Go to rehab, pay your first bill or get your first job before age 50 and we'll talk about growing up.' Instead I blocked her. I'm sure the family is abuzz now about this. How I've "changed". That's fine. My pride is not worth continued interaction with these people. I have changed - I no longer feel the need to tolerate this.
My mom's ties to these people makes it harder, but like I said, I'm close to my parents and grandma. I'll continue to be.
Even my sister has been too consumed by these jerks. I love my sister to death and would never cut her out, but I am restructuring when and where we hang out and what we talk about. IE, no more ****** friends and family conversations. Keep it light.
I'm a depressed dude a lot of the time, but I have found how to be a little happier. I'm also a good dude and some very good people would vouch for that. I feel I have good, trustworthy people in my life for a reason. My best friends have keys to my house. I've slept on hospital couches next to some and they'd do the same for me. The negative people I talk about don't have that - they don't give enough to get it.
I think I can all but forget about these losers, and still keep the people I care about. It'll just take some finesse.
I deleted my cousin last night because she was continually being annoying. She sent me a message "you unfriend me because I disagree with you? Seriously? Grow up."
My pride wanted to say "no, I 'unfriended' you because you are a terrible person and the very thought of you makes my day worse" And grow up? Go to rehab, pay your first bill or get your first job before age 50 and we'll talk about growing up.' Instead I blocked her. I'm sure the family is abuzz now about this. How I've "changed". That's fine. My pride is not worth continued interaction with these people. I have changed - I no longer feel the need to tolerate this.
My mom's ties to these people makes it harder, but like I said, I'm close to my parents and grandma. I'll continue to be.
Even my sister has been too consumed by these jerks. I love my sister to death and would never cut her out, but I am restructuring when and where we hang out and what we talk about. IE, no more ****** friends and family conversations. Keep it light.
I'm a depressed dude a lot of the time, but I have found how to be a little happier. I'm also a good dude and some very good people would vouch for that. I feel I have good, trustworthy people in my life for a reason. My best friends have keys to my house. I've slept on hospital couches next to some and they'd do the same for me. The negative people I talk about don't have that - they don't give enough to get it.
I think I can all but forget about these losers, and still keep the people I care about. It'll just take some finesse.
Cut the cords dude, I did several years ago when my two daughters were very young. Did not want them to be raised around the messes you described, as we had them too. I came from a very, very violent family. Trust me you will be better off distancing yourself from that. You know it is the right thing to do, in the very way you posted the question. Do it.
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Oh God, stupid FB... I deleted that crap like 10 months ago... never regretted it.
Huh...we have the same relatives.
Move on and never regret your self preservation.
Move on and never regret your self preservation.
Ridge Ol buddy. Here's my inebriated spin. You marry your very best freind then you make a couple more with who ya married. Anyone outside that circle comes n goes. Only a few will ever make the list that gets a free pass.
Was wondering where you've been but I too have really slacked off from Facebook. I predict that in 3 years FB will be mostly history.
Yea. I do wish I would have taken the time to let a lot of you guys know I was getting off.
It was one of those things. I made up my mind and off I went. lol
That's some real talk RidgeHunter. I've been through similar and am still working through it to some extent.
An article that helped a lot with my group of friends from high school : 5 Geek social fallacies
When you are a nice person, it's tough to realize some people are just wasting your time or even malicious and cause strife wherever they go.
An article that helped a lot with my group of friends from high school : 5 Geek social fallacies
When you are a nice person, it's tough to realize some people are just wasting your time or even malicious and cause strife wherever they go.
I understand what you are talking about and see it at some of my family get togethers. It is a sad commentary to the state of things in American culture . Clint Eastwood touched on it in "Grand Torino", and I personally wish my family was closer like many other cultures and minorities that live in America.
Example I needed to put in a new fence post in my suburban yard, one post hole to dig, mix some quikcrete, set the pole, drink some beers. I could not get any of my adult kids to help, not even for some pocket money. Health problems prevents me from doing it myself. So I hired a couple nice Hispanics fellows to be my sons for the morning fence pole job today. But for real I understand RidgeHunter.
Example I needed to put in a new fence post in my suburban yard, one post hole to dig, mix some quikcrete, set the pole, drink some beers. I could not get any of my adult kids to help, not even for some pocket money. Health problems prevents me from doing it myself. So I hired a couple nice Hispanics fellows to be my sons for the morning fence pole job today. But for real I understand RidgeHunter.
