Scenario: My father sends a gift - birthday, Christmas, whatever. . . large or small doesn't matter.
The day before the gift arrives, he shoots the recipient a text telling them that the gift will be arriving the following day and that he expects a thank you call.
It's been happening for years now, but to me it's rude. It lessens the worth of the thank you because you never get the chance to thank him on your own accord. It's almost like he has to control the process.
What do you all think? Is it okay to demand, expect or "require" a thank you for a gift given - and then inform the recipient as such?
The question isn't about whether you not the recipient should express gratefulness (of course they should!), it's about whether the giver of the gift has the right to, pretty much, demand a thank you and in a way tag an obligation onto the gift, essentially removing the ability of the recipient to thank them on their own accord.
The day before the gift arrives, he shoots the recipient a text telling them that the gift will be arriving the following day and that he expects a thank you call.
It's been happening for years now, but to me it's rude. It lessens the worth of the thank you because you never get the chance to thank him on your own accord. It's almost like he has to control the process.
What do you all think? Is it okay to demand, expect or "require" a thank you for a gift given - and then inform the recipient as such?
The question isn't about whether you not the recipient should express gratefulness (of course they should!), it's about whether the giver of the gift has the right to, pretty much, demand a thank you and in a way tag an obligation onto the gift, essentially removing the ability of the recipient to thank them on their own accord.
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