That's a fair point, but we're about the same size (she is 6 ft tall) and have the same general opinions regarding ergonomics. Also, (as I'm sure you've all experienced) its dang near impossible to just have one gun. I'm buying this thing KNOWING that we'll eventually have another and possibly more. That said, I also know that its really tough to know what your preferences, strengths/weaknesses, needs, etc...are until you have owned and operated one for a while. That's why I want to get into it with good value, reliability, and something easy to shoot so we can learn and grown into it.Its quite possible you wont find "one" gun for "both" of you.
And "quite" possible that youll have more than one, different situations need different "tools".
Youve looked at some of the most common guns out there, may be time to choose.
Good Luck in your search...