I shoot 180gn's too. I agree that form, practice and the right gun will nullify the snap argument.
This whole 9mm vs .40 vs 45 is just a pissing contest started by those that want to be "right".
I don't care if someone else shoots 9 better than 40. I hope you shoot what you shoot well. I sure do.
Interestingly enough, I bought my wife a 9mm Sig for her first gun. She shoots it very well, but shoots my .45 Gov. better. Difference is a compact gun vs a full size.
When we do the Women-on-target program at our range annually, I poll the lady's coming off the centerfire pistol range about what platform they enjoyed shooting the most.
Just about hands down they like the .45 vs the 9mm Beretta. I think the single stack fits their hands better to handle the recoil.