she has been fighting cancer for 20 years.......takes chemo pills and now has congestive heart failure. she is no doubt very ill.my wife works full time and tries to take care of her mother every minute she is off. plus she takes off work for her Dr. appts. and any time her Mom calls. i'm sure her employer gets tired of it but she doesn't care her mom is #1. the others want the very best care for their mom as long as it costs them nothing. Father inlaw passed away sept 2014 and left her a six figure life insurance policy. not sure why we pay for every thing
There needs to be some discussion goin' on here. Sounds like with a little planning and a little compromise she could be taken care of without it causing undue strain on you and your wife's emotional and physical health, not to mention your marriage.
Your anger is not unfounded, it's just not productive. You should be able to have a calm talk with your wife about why this isn't sustainable for you, your job, and your marriage. If you can't, that seems like a big problem. Her mom's sickness does not mean that you don't need sleep before driving an hour and a half to work a labor job in August in Oklahoma. If you're such a dick then why are they at your house?
Your home should be a place for you and your wife to be happy and get rest, not have your marriage stressed by outside forces. And you should come before mom. An apartment 1/4mile away, in a senior complex at that, and money in the bank...this is absurd. Many people on OSA have driveways longer than 1/4 mile. All of this could and should be occurring there.
The southern/Okie "family is everything" mantra can lead to some weird situations when people abuse it to justify ****** behavior.