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You have a son and the worst thing you can gripe about is pop cans and trash?? Be thankful. There is a natural rebellion against parents and most kids go through it. Gotta grow up. If it is really that bad then talk to him and explain to him there will be consequences to his actions. I think the key thing is to talk to him.
To the guy forcing the states and capitals on your niece, is this a school project? Why is it so important? I could probably label the vast majority of states but as far as capitals....I doubt it.
To the guy forcing the states and capitals on your niece, is this a school project? Why is it so important? I could probably label the vast majority of states but as far as capitals....I doubt it.
Throwing money at the problem doesn't solve much, you need to find what motivates him. Does he enjoy video games? Sit down and talk to him and ask him how his day went and show interest. He will most likely show disgust at this (the rebellious part comming out) but in the long run, it will keep the bond between you two.
Once you get that bond and find out what motivates, then start the reward system. If he does his chores, you will allow him so many hours of video games or blank, etc. H probably doesn't have much interest in money at this point.
And as far as baseball, he may be good but that doesn't mean he enjoys it or is in it for himself. Try to be involved and play catch with him, etc. Talk to him and make sure hes in it because he wants to be.
Once you get that bond and find out what motivates, then start the reward system. If he does his chores, you will allow him so many hours of video games or blank, etc. H probably doesn't have much interest in money at this point.
And as far as baseball, he may be good but that doesn't mean he enjoys it or is in it for himself. Try to be involved and play catch with him, etc. Talk to him and make sure hes in it because he wants to be.
The second pop can incident my mom would have whipped my butt. There wouldn't have been a third.
This x eleventy billion.
Take it from a kid who did nearly the same thing from the years 13-16. I had no motivation to do much of anything.
And let me tell you, it wasn't because there wasn't anything I wanted to do. My dream (from the time I was like 3 or 4), was to get a project car and rebuild it with my dad. Never happened, my dad wasn't interested in my dreams. I wasn't a bad kid, I didn't even hoard pop cans, but my parents couldn't hardly get any work out of me.
One of the best dads I know (like a second father to me), learned both hunting and car rebuilding because that's what his son was interested in. Not to say that you give them whatever; If I remember right, his son worked to pay for the car and many of the parts, but his dad worked on it with him, same thing with a lot of the hunting stuff (I think his rifle was from his grandpa though).
Stop buying pop
I like it!.....I have similar issues with my 10 year old every once in a while with video games. I will take them away for weeks at a time until he straightens out. It almost seems with kids these days, they have no imagination. I remember playing with hot wheels for hours as a kid. Climbing trees, riding bikes, etc.....Technology has ruined our youth...
At least he isn't like the 11 year old that kicked me in the mouth at work last week. He punched his mom in the back of the head because she pissed him off. I got there, he bucked up, I body slammed him and put him in cuffs. He was in possession of a knife and cigarettes. He kicked me when we were trying to hobble his legs. He also spit on my patrol car. I ever so kindly wiped the spit off using HIM and put him in the car and transported him to a Behavioral Health facility in Tulsa.....
This. Spend your time with the kids, not laying down laws and making threats. Kids are tough and resilient ... they will beat you at your own game simply because they are younger and less tired than you.
Besides ... the day will come when you would DIE to have this time back, believe it or not. Go get a trash bag and help him clean his room ... then go do something he wants to do, not something you think he would like to do.
Same thing with the little girl who isn't learning her states like you want. Try working with her instead of issuing edicts and punishing her all the time. Help her learn her states and then take her to the spa for a manicure (clear polish) when she has them down pat.
Two sayings come to mind here ... there is more than one way to skin a cat and you get more flies with sugar than with salt ...
Dammit guys, I miss my babies now ...
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