What would you do?

[71buickfreak]

If $400 makes or breaks someone for a wedding in this case, they should hold off till they are more stable IMO.

That's not fair, really. Many people love each other and want to get married but can't afford much of a wedding. That doesn't mean they can't handle being married and should wait. If people waited until they were ready to have kids, the world be at a population of 0. My wife and I got married and were broke. We took our honeymoon on the cash gifts we received. Been together 14 years. Money doesn't mean you are ready or not.

As for the neice, I would do what I did with my little sister. I told them that I would pay $500 towards their wedding as our gift. I told her that it was not for bills or food or anything else, just the wedding. When she was ready, I would call the business and put down my card number. Otherwise, she has to wait. She has a history of being financially irresponsible, but there is no one else to help them out.

 

[JD8]

That's not fair, really. Many people love each other and want to get married but can't afford much of a wedding. That doesn't mean they can't handle being married and should wait. If people waited until they were ready to have kids, the world be at a population of 0. My wife and I got married and were broke. We took our honeymoon on the cash gifts we received. Been together 14 years. Money doesn't mean you are ready or not.
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Sure it's fair. You're turning my comment into a broke or rich ideal and that's not what my comment is about. If you don't have money, and in this case apparently in a hurry, then go to the courthouse. If you are going to plan it, then again, it can wait and $400 now or later won't matter much if not given immediately. Basically kind of eluding to the point that that others have touched on, I'd make sure that the money is going where it's supposed to.

 

[tntrex]

I'd give the money to her cuz im the coolest uncle.

 

[Lone Wolf '49]

Depends ... without knowing anymore than what you've told us here, I'm inclined to agree with your darling bride ...

ETA: Sounds like "Mr. Right" will come and go. She will be your niece forever.

This. Who do you live with and love most?

 

[SoonerBorn]

I'd stop actually typing "ain't" out on my keyboard.


Sent from my meh, using my meh.

 

[Cedar Creek]

My head, heart, gut, et al says: go with the "I ain't in nobody's doghouse" plan and ease on out.




Cedar Creek

 

[uncle money bags]

Anybody in my family or friends wants some money to pay something, I make them take me to the place and I'll pay it personally so I know that it goes where they said it would.

When I tell them that, I almost never get a call back.

I need money for ammo, and a Barrett. Ill meet you at H and H.

 

[EFsDad]

For any family that I don't want to deal with, I give them a loan and tell them that I don't want to see them again until they are ready to pay!

Gone, gone, gone!

 

[JPK]

Jeez, Effin family BS. Don't pay to be a nice guy sometimes.

Sometimes we are blessed with our friends and cursed with our family.....

 

[Ace_on_the_Turn]

Tell her it's a graduation gift, and she will get it when she graduates.