I went with my best dude friend's old lady to help pick out a present for him recently, and the 'ol boys at the store were blown away when they found out I was not her boyfriend - that her boyfriend was at home. They were all "then who's this guy if your boyfriend's not here?". One asked if I was her brother. Even after we explained the situation to them, they looked at each other with cocked eyebrows and continued with "so ya'll are out alone?" stuff. Yeah dude, I dunno about your momma's house, but a present is generally a surprise where I come from. It was weird. They were chatting to each other about us under their breath. Sometimes we'll go do stuff or grab a drink, etc. I've known these people most of my life, and they have way more conservative relationship values than me even. I think we can trust each other.
One of my best buddies is a chick. The ******* boyfriend of one of our mutual friends told her "You guys aren't real friends; you're just using him. You're not even fawking him." Which is a ridiculously sexist thing to say for one, as if the only thing a woman can bring to her social relationships is her vagina, but beyond that she explained to him that RH lives with a chick that bangs him...I'm just his buddy. And we trade off buying each other drinks/dinner when we're out, get each other presents, help move, etc. How is that using me? Like she owes me sex if she wants me to like her? I hear that a lot. I'm no male feminist but that's kind of offensive. Of course I made sure my girlfriend became friends with her and she was over at our house all the time before she moved...I wouldn't be sneaky with another woman of course. I'm an open book. But we've taken trips together alone and HOLY HELL does that get me a lot of incredulous "are you kidding me!?! your girlfriend is OK with that?" Family, friends, strangers...etc. One guy's high-pitched incredulous voice actually startled me he was so worked up. All ages give me this, but mainly older, and always from the Midwest/South. Muh big city friends don't even give it a second though.
I mean, what's the big deal? Like I'm gonna risk losing either my old lady or my best good chick buddy by awkardly trying to bang her? Really? I'm still young, but it's been a couple years since my sex drive completely overruled my brain.
What say you men (and BadgeBunny)? Are you OK with tied down folks hangin' (but not bangin') with the opposite sex? Would you let your worse half do it? My feelings are if a cheater 'gon cheat they 'gon cheat anyways, and they are more likely to do it in secrecy ne-wayz. What about the "a guy who is friends with a chick he's not banging is a loser in the friendzone" sheet? Anyone subscribe to that? Are women only good for their vaginas? I mean they are warm and wet, but so is Houston, and that's not the only reason to like America, ya dig?
One of my best buddies is a chick. The ******* boyfriend of one of our mutual friends told her "You guys aren't real friends; you're just using him. You're not even fawking him." Which is a ridiculously sexist thing to say for one, as if the only thing a woman can bring to her social relationships is her vagina, but beyond that she explained to him that RH lives with a chick that bangs him...I'm just his buddy. And we trade off buying each other drinks/dinner when we're out, get each other presents, help move, etc. How is that using me? Like she owes me sex if she wants me to like her? I hear that a lot. I'm no male feminist but that's kind of offensive. Of course I made sure my girlfriend became friends with her and she was over at our house all the time before she moved...I wouldn't be sneaky with another woman of course. I'm an open book. But we've taken trips together alone and HOLY HELL does that get me a lot of incredulous "are you kidding me!?! your girlfriend is OK with that?" Family, friends, strangers...etc. One guy's high-pitched incredulous voice actually startled me he was so worked up. All ages give me this, but mainly older, and always from the Midwest/South. Muh big city friends don't even give it a second though.
I mean, what's the big deal? Like I'm gonna risk losing either my old lady or my best good chick buddy by awkardly trying to bang her? Really? I'm still young, but it's been a couple years since my sex drive completely overruled my brain.
What say you men (and BadgeBunny)? Are you OK with tied down folks hangin' (but not bangin') with the opposite sex? Would you let your worse half do it? My feelings are if a cheater 'gon cheat they 'gon cheat anyways, and they are more likely to do it in secrecy ne-wayz. What about the "a guy who is friends with a chick he's not banging is a loser in the friendzone" sheet? Anyone subscribe to that? Are women only good for their vaginas? I mean they are warm and wet, but so is Houston, and that's not the only reason to like America, ya dig?