I agree that honor is important, not as important, I would argue, as morality because without morality honor can become quite deformed, but important. Likewise, respect is the baseline for treating others. However, there is good reason to include masculinity as a virtue of its own. We are designed by nature (God, if you like) first and foremost to protect our wives, children, friends, and family - it comes very naturally to most men in one degree or another and we ignore or subvert it at our peril - the peril being that we risk rendering ourselves as useless as teats on a boar. Healthy masculinity is not the overbearing nonsense that Hollywood likes to portray nowadays but the best of what we see in our fathers, grandfathers, and brothers. Not exclusively tied to maleness but predominant and quite natural to that state.
So, I don't want to discount what you've said but I also don't see it as an "alternative" to honoring masculinity but rather an addition in a well rounded person.
I agree with this. My post wasn't meant to cast masculinity away, it was to point out that masculinity was not the cause of bad men. Its akin to pointing at firearms as the cause for what evil people do with them. On the part of honor vs morality, I'll have to disagree with you. IMO honor is the cornerstone to morality, love, and respect. You can have morals without honor, but those morals are usually self centered. And morality has been used many times throughout history to subjugate others who don't fit within the majority's version of morals. Rarely have I seen men with honor do something immoral in the general sense. I have seen men place their perception of duty before honor and that is what I feel you were referring to as being deformed. Of course this is my take on it. I will agree with you that masculinity is a good thing to have.