We are a minority, but I don't think it is as small as you think. I think we end up "closeted" in states like Oklahoma more than other places, because most of the social inertia in the state is right wing and religious. I grew up religious and my family retains their beliefs, so I have to tread a fine line with them. It isn't my place to force them to question their beliefs, so I don't bring it up - but everyone else is fair game if they start prosthelytizing. I spent many years keeping my atheism a secret, though. When I would tell people it was like they instantly thought less of me, and of course that reaction would instantly make me think much less of them. It is pretty easy to understand the hostility that the Gay community holds toward Christians if you try to see it from their point of view.
And no, homosexuality really can't be a choice. Nobody in their right mind would choose a path so fraught with difficulty on purpose. I just can't imagine choosing the path of maximum resistance - especially in a place so openly hostile to that lifestyle.
Regarding the bullying? I have been fascinated by the fact that it has gotten so much press lately. Back when I was a kid I remember my mom telling me to "turn the other cheek" when I got picked on by a grade school bully. My dad didn't want to disrespect my mother or her wishes, but after a couple of weeks of me turning the other cheek and getting smacked around for my troubles, my dad finally pulled me out into the garage one afternoon and just told me straight out: "you are going to have to kick that boys ass or he will never leave you be". I took dad's advice, and I never had any troubles with bullies again.
I understand physical altercations aren't the solution to all bullying problems, but sometimes it is the only choice you have with a certain breed of bully.
Now if you are upset about "cyber bullying", I think you may have a bigger problem, primarily the fact that you give a damn about cyber bullies. Who cares? cancel your FB. Problem solved.
