This sounds like a lot more fun than a wedding. God luck and good speed, man. Don't get engaged again.
Thank you ...
Thank you. The institution of marriage is not the fairy-tale it used to be (At my age, I'm beginning to suspect it never really was all that great ... but I digress), especially in the minds of women. Younger women have been brought up on reality tv, where it's all about "the game" ... bigger, better, faster ... They don't know what they want so they flit from man to man to man trying to find it even though they aren't really sure what they are looking for ... except for maybe a foreign carIt's not about finding "love" whateverthehell that is ... It's about finding the man who will buy you the most stuff and cause you the least amount of "muss and fuss" ... Kim Kardashian is a classic example ... And every woman I know wants to be just like her ...
My advice (and it's worth what he paid for it) to ZH is this ... Find a woman (or three even) who are gainfully employed in a profession (and not at 7-11 or Night Trips -- especially not Night Trips) and is already her "own person" if that makes any sense at all. THOSE girls are the ones who will make good friends and interesting bedfellows ... It's not as much about looks as it is mutual respect (and skill ... but if someone really strikes your fancy check, and is amenable, take the time to see if they are "trainable"). He already has "one leg up" so to speak ... EVERY girl wants to sleep with the band ...
Humans are animals and a marriage is a cage. Animals aren't ever really comfortable in a cage. I know many couples who got divorced because they were too freaked out by that cage, those ties, that ink on paper. The less you have to run from, the less you want to stray. I also have very minority views re: relationships and sex. Like you say, mutual respect. You don't try to make someone stick around, sometimes they end up wanting to. The divorce rate for 1st marriages tells me pretty clearly that most of us aren't cut out for it.
Your advice is the most solid **** I've seen. But I've been struggling with women who are their "own person" for a long time. I'm my own person, and I jive better with irrational, carefree hippie chicks. I've tried. I've tried with a reclusive miser, I've tried with a teacher...I've tried. I'm way too grounded and responsible to have any fun with them. I've finally came to grips I'll be dabbling in crazy forever. It can, when done right, strike a nice balance though. I can keep them from being too stupid, and they can keep me from being too boring. I fully admit it's a lot rougher road, but it's my milieu.
Several times in my past I had folks (yes, usually women but sometimes an occasional fella who was "just looking out for me") actually say to me "You could do so much better in the looks department".
WTF?!?!?!!? Like I ASKED you to comment on my latest fling?!??! For your information he can tie a knot in a cherry stem with his tongue. Now excuse me while I go find out when your boyfriend is coming over for our weekly "football game", ***** ...
Bwahaha. Oh my god, you're doing the Lord's work on the board lately.
Lawl on the looks thing. I get some sick sadistic pleasure whenever I get the "what the hell is she doing with him?" look from people. Especially if it's an old high school classmate I run into around town. Nerds learn to be funny, and funny nerds who eat a lot of sundaes learn how to do the cherry stem thing.
