animaniacs, and were zany to the max...
You have a son and the worst thing you can gripe about is pop cans and trash?? Be thankful. There is a natural rebellion against parents and most kids go through it. Gotta grow up. If it is really that bad then talk to him and explain to him there will be consequences to his actions. I think the key thing is to talk to him.
To the guy forcing the states and capitals on your niece, is this a school project? Why is it so important? I could probably label the vast majority of states but as far as capitals....I doubt it.
Same thing with the little girl who isn't learning her states like you want. Try working with her instead of issuing edicts and punishing her all the time. Help her learn her states and then take her to the spa for a manicure (clear polish) when she has them down pat.
I should have been more detailed in the time process. I started by offering her rewards. I told her once I would give her $20 if she could get a 100% on the blank map. She didn't care. Then I started emphasizing how important it was to my wife and I. She didn't care. Then I took the allowance and so on. I tried to encourage and offered rewards, when that didn't work I moved on to something else. We have even spent time trying to help her learn them, but she has to try herself as well. Someone won't always be there to hold her hand. Once they are learned I will be sure to reward her for it too. I am very big on encouragement and such, as that was somethng I never got. I cherish every moment with these children, but I will not look past any wrong doings because the time is limited. I am not implying that that is what YOU do, but that did seem to be the general attitude of this thread.
I need some input from some other parents of teens out there.i have a teenage boy that is 13 yrs old.let me start by saying he is a good boy for the most part makes a's & b's in school.he does'nt ever get in any trouble at school.but i ca'nt get him movivated he is so lazy it makes me want to staggle him.example went in his room here while back a 6 empty soda cans in his bedroom.not so bad right tell him that better never happen again i be switch next time i was in his room 2 wks latter 8 soda pop cans in his room and to make matters worse they wore on shelf in closet.his job is to take out trash and he gets alloance for it he will take it out after you tell him,does'nt do it on his own,then when he gets back does'nt put new bag in can unless u tell him.he is so good at base ball that it is unreal he pitchs and is fair at it and he never patrice if he would he would the best i ever seen for his age.if i go with him he will pratice.but there is alot times i cannot and i try to get him to pratice alone he just will not.how do i get this boy motivated.or mabye i am just being a old fundy dundy anyone else have a problem with there teen being lazy
The states and their capitals are not a school project. It is something I feel she should know especially at her age. I was also forced to learn them when I was in 5th grade. Even now, 18 years later, I can label every state on a map and I know a good amount of their capitals as well. You might think I am being harsh, but IMO a person should know geography as part of their general knowledge. She is 11 and she can't even pick out the state she lives in on a map. Knowledge is power. There are people who give everything to protect our boundaries and our way of life. I believe we owe it to them to at least know what they are protecting. After the states we will move on to American History. She doesn't know who the first president was, she doesn't know who we fought to gain our independence nor does she know who we were fighting in WWII, why we were fighting them and when it happened. These things are important, to me at least. I am also trying to teach her another valuable lesson, work. Sometimes we need to work and that may entail doing or learning things we do not like, not only to obtain new things, but (as in her case) to keep the things we have. Anyone remember the tv show "Street Smarts" or when Jay Leno used to do the segment "Jaywalking". I used to think those people were idiots and I will do everything in my power to make sure they do not end up like that. I must be doing something right with these kids, when they came to my wife and I they were both failing every subject in school. Now my niece is A & B student and my nephew is above average in every category. To top it off, they were both awarded "Student of the Quarter" at their schools. For which I am extremely proud and they both know it.
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