I have to admit that I was guilty of this. It's kind of embarrassing, at least I embarrassed myself only on the interwebs this time. I met the kid one time this past summer helping my dad build fence on my dad's land out in the Bridge Creek/Blanchard area. He just put off the good ole country boy/good kid vibe. Asked me to go fishing with him sometime. I've lived in the Tulsa area since March, and I was just down helping dad with the fence on the weekend so the fishing was never gonna happen obviously. I know my dad tried to invest some time in him and invited him to their church, and to my understanding he had stopped going a few months back. I'm not trying to do a pity party on this kid. I don't know if he was already into bad stuff at the time I had met him, or if he slowly started going down hill afterwards. I don't feel that the young mother did anything wrong in defending her household no matter her strange family circumstances. I'd do the same, and hope my wife would do the same if someone was breaking into our home.
I've always thought that I am a pretty good judge of character. Guess not all the time. It's just crazy how normal a criminal can appear to the outside world when he wants to. Almost makes me feel like a bad person just cause he had me fooled.
Just keep your eyes open and be aware of everyone, because even the crazies can appear normal sometimes.
Good post.
Too many of us (maybe all) think that we are great judges of character. We are not. Just because a person makes you feel good, has a nice smile etc. doesn't mean a thing. It is what a person does in their life that matters. If you don't know someone's history, do not trust them.
Why the media always takes the side of the criminal is a mystery to me.